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Why I Stopped Watching American Idol!

I used to love watching American Idol.

It was the most fun watching people who thought they were incredible singers but were terrible, and would argue with the dry and witty English producer Simon Cowell, who would challenge them to forge a musical career and come back to prove him wrong.

He was usually right, but Jennifer Hudson showed him up by winning an Oscar for her performance in Dreamgirls after Cowell said, "You're out of your depth in this competition."

The judges were great entertainment too; musical supremo Randy Jackson would always notice if the contestants sang a bum note, and the funny and unpredictable Paula Abdul enjoyed teasing and arguing with Simon Cowell.

To top the cast off, the show was presented by the lively and engaging Ryan Seacrest.

I stopped watching Idol after Simon Cowell left but Ryan Seacrest is still a real busy guy.

He hosts TV and Radio shows and became a mega-producer of hits like E! News and Keeping Up with the Kardashians.

I heard recently that his schedule is planned down to the last minute.

That means that he has something planned between 2:02pm and 2:03.

And maybe something different between 2:03 and 2:04!

I'm not judging anyone, because I know that if you want to be productive, you have to be organized - like my Doctor who has his day broken into 7 minute slots - but I've been thinking about that one minute schedule ...

I love motorbikes and I used to race off-road Motocross - perhaps with a name like Harley it was always my destiny?!

One guy who used to help out at our club was called Beaver, because he was always busy.

I never saw the guy sit down and relax once.

The joke was that when you saw Beaver's truck pulling up, he would be out of it with his feet on the ground, before the truck stopped moving.

It was hard to get the time to talk to Beaver but he was a very hard worker and did a lot for the club.

In his 40's he had a heart attack from which he sadly did not recover.

We were sorry to hear that, but wondered if that might have been because he wore himself out by never taking a break?

Putting the "one minute schedule" together with my memories of Beaver got me to thinking …

If you're someone who has their life planned down to the last minute and you rush your way through life, what do you have at the end?

You may have had a very productive life, but have you lived?

Were you fully alive with the present moment?

Being present means you are "wholly here" and paying attention.

When you're present you are automatically grateful.

I was talking to my hairdresser about gratitude and discussing the question, "if you are blessed, but you don't know you are blessed, are you blessed?"

We agreed that even if you didn’t know you were blessed, you were still blessed, but that you didn’t feel blessed.

Because in order to feel blessed you've got to be aware of being blessed"

Sixteen years ago a school friend of mine gave birth to a daughter.

Today is her daughter's birthday and she's just posted about her on Facebook.

"16 years ago the most precious gift arrived.

We waited many years and spent a fortune creating her.

She was better than we could ever have expected and continues to reward us with her amazing, beautiful, talented, caring self...and continues to cost us a fortune!

Happy 16th birthday to the best daughter in the world.

Love you more than anything and everything. xxxx"

Do you think that maybe my friends daughter is all the more precious because it wasn’t easy creating her and they waited many years to have her?

My friend knows her daughter is precious, she's aware that she's blessed and I bet she tries her best to be present with her daughter every moment they're together, because there's no gift, no present, like the present!

If you're caught up in busyness, you may wish to reflect on the words of John Lennon;

"Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans."

If you're feeling the need to slow down a little and be more present with your life, here are some great life coaching tools!

Sacred Space Tools

wishing you the best of days,

Harley M Storey
"The Life Coach Toolman!"

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  6. Harley good advice. You also know there are a lot of people out there who confuse 'activity with accomplishment.' I was told many years ago to take time to check-in with myself each day and see what I am thinking and doing. When the 'day timer' first came out I had an associate who had all his pages filled one day I asked him..."can I see that? and he said sure." Thumbing through I found more than 75% of a day went to the next day and the next day and by weeks end the new week started out with little new entries but full Monday page. I asked him why and he said "they are just reminders," Think of the time used to transfer one day to the next...some activity with little accomplishment. He was robbing himself in many ways of the satisfaction of accomplishment.
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